Remember To Smile And Speak To People – Scientists say it takes 72 muscles to frown and only four to smile. Our face can use the exercise, and others can use the smile. If you give a smile, you just might get one back. Speaking to those we meet shows interest in someone other than ourselves. Nothing is nicer than a cheerful word of greeting. “Hello, how are you today?” when we meet and “Have a good day!” when we leave can be very meaningful when spoken with sincerity. “A man who has friends must himself be friendly…” (Prov. 18:24)
Remember To Show An Interest In All People – If you work at it you can like almost everybody. Inquire about things that interest the other person, rather than just talking about yourself. A key word to remember is FORM. The letters can stand for family, occupation, recreation, and money. “How is your family?” Inquire about their children, parents, etc. “What do you do for a living?” or “How’s that new job coming along?” can create conversation. So can “Are you playing any golf these days?” or “What do you think about those Braves?” The economy concerns everyone. “The cost of gasoline is getting ridiculous, isn’t it?” “Do you remember what you paid for it as a teenager?” Of course, you would not talk about all these things in one conversation, but they can be springboards to good conversation.
Remember To Be Generous With Your Praise And Cautious With Your Criticism – If someone has done a good job, tell them. Show your appreciation and what others have noticed. Praising someone for their efforts just makes them want to keep it up and do even more. It works with all ages when genuine praise is given. When criticism is needed it should be handled cautiously and with love. Be considerate when dealing with the feelings of others. Remember that when controversy arises, there are usually three sides—yours, the other fellow’s, and the right one. Sometimes we are prejudiced by our emotions and hurt feelings. We all need constructive criticism at times. Beginning with any commendation, and then pointing out areas where improvement can be made is the better approach. And when the person knows you have their best interest at heart, they will be more open to your advice.
Remember To Trust People – Not all people are dishonest, and trusting people builds lasting relationships. Be willing to give people the benefit of the doubt until the truth is well established. Jesus condemned unjust judgment and commended righteous judgment. (Matt. 7:1-5; John 7:24) The latter passage states, “Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” Good human relations build a stronger church, as well as a stronger society.
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